Time ago, I used to perfectly happy to spend the day on the couch watching numerous Friends or Sex and the City reruns and doing not much else. I did it often.
But since becoming a mother, those days are long gone… and now, I find it hard to slow down. There is always a load of washing to do, or some work that needs to be done, or something that needs tiding. I have struggled to stop.
Once I started listening to my body more, I noticed that just like life, there is a natural ebb and flow to my body and my mind. Around the same time each month (ladies, you know what I’m talking about), I really need to put the brakes on.
My body craves calm, stillness, rest and peace. I used to really resist this. I ignored it. Until I’d inevitably find myself in tears, frustrated that “nothing was going my way”.
As this time creeps up each month, I now know what to expect. I’m ready for it. I’m starting to crave it.
It’s ok to want some peace. It’s ok to want to slow down. And it’s definitely ok to ignore that to-do list for a few hours and instead do something that nourishes you. Our bodies and minds need this rest. We can’t be expected to fire on all cylinders 24/7 – it doesn’t work like that.
I’m trying not to be hard on myself these days. I know this is a time I need each month to recharge, reflect and unwind. It only lasts for a day or two – but it’s an important time for my health.
So what do I do? And how on earth can I maintain a level of calm with a 3.5 and a 1 year old?!?!
I surround myself with things that bring me joy and a sense of peace. I burn incense (Nag Champa – THE BEST!), I get off the computer, I light my favourite candles, I prioritise meditation, I play with my crystals, I increase my water intake, I drink an extra green smoothie, I wear or bathe in this beautiful Peace oil, I breathe in a lot of fresh air, I catch up on my favourite tv shows and I free myself of the guilt I feel when I focus solely on me.
I need to work, I need to study but most of all, I need to be a good Mum and Wife. But I can’t be any of those things without taking this time each month, for me.
Ironically, this time of quiet leaves me feeling more creative, more energised and more joyful than ever.
Don’t feel guilty about taking this time, gorgeous. Give yourself permission to slow down for a day or two.
Have you been listening to your body? Is it crying out for some quiet time?