The world of meditation is a fairly new concept for me.
I’ve always been intrigued by the world of mindfulness, but up until this year I didn’t think I could do it. I didn’t think I’d be any good at it.
The whole point of meditation is to calm your mind and be in the present moment, yet I seemed to think that meditation meant I couldn’t have ANY thoughts. So each time I attempted to sit in stillness, I would hear all these thoughts and then judge them for being there. And the whole thing became one big stress!
But I couldn’t let meditation go. I knew I wanted to be good at it.
And right there was where I had it wrong. You don’t need to be good at meditation. You just need to do it. And practice regularly.
You aren’t meant to clear your mind of all thoughts – that’s not the point. It’s about acknowledging what comes in our head, not judging it, and letting it go.
I started to visualise my thoughts as little clouds that I would see, acknowledge, and then watch float by. And that alone had this profound effect on me. Instant relaxation. Release. And now, sometimes I get so deeply into my stillness that I don’t even need to acknowledge the thoughts because they aren’t really there . They are just floating clouds allowing me to go deeper into relaxation.
Everyone has different ways of meditating. Some days I meditate to calming music, sometimes it’s to a guided meditation, sometimes I visualise and sometimes the only noise is coming from my breath. I always meditate with at least one of my crystals. But everyone is different. Some people like to meditate lying down, or cross legged, or with their feet flat on the floor. It’s a completely personal choice. You do what is right for you.
Meditation truly has changed my life. It’s grounding. It’s centres me. I’m calmer with my children. I don’t get anxious or frazzled. And when I’ve had the time, I’ve actually had some really emotional moments during meditation.
But there’s a catch. I just mentioned it above. Time. I am a Mum. And finding the time to meditate is one of the hardest things for me. And unfortunately, it’s not something I get a chance to do every day. But that needs to change, because meditation needs to become a non-negotiable part of my day. I’d love to get up early and practice before the rest of the house is up, but when we are usually all up at about 5am anyway, I can’t see that happening.
So I try to do a 10-15 minute meditation when the children have their sleep. But they don’t always both sleep.
So then I try to sit in stillness right before bed. But I often end up falling asleep.
I have been getting frustrated at myself, or my situation. Why can’t I find the time?! But then again – another ah-ha moment – stop judging!
If I fall asleep, that’s fine. I generally sleep deeper for it. If I can only manage 2 minutes before the children wake up – that’s ok too. As long as I am practicing each and every day. Because I have learnt, that if I go for a few days without sitting in stillness, I really feel it. Emotionally, physically and spiritually – my body craves that tiny piece of solitude.
Whether it be a 20 minute block of peace, or a minute of mindful breathing – give it a go. Keep practicing. And watch the magic unfold.
Do you meditate? If you’re only new to meditation, I’d love to hear how you go! Namaste xx