Meditation

The world of meditation is a fairly new concept for me.

I’ve always been intrigued by the world of mindfulness, but up until this year I didn’t think I could do it.  I didn’t think I’d be any good at it.

The whole point of meditation is to calm your mind and be in the present moment, yet I seemed to think that meditation meant I couldn’t have ANY thoughts.  So each time I attempted to sit in stillness, I would hear all these thoughts and then judge them for being there.  And the whole thing became one big stress!

But I couldn’t let meditation go.  I knew I wanted to be good at it.

And right there was where I had it wrong.  You don’t need to be good at meditation.  You just need to do it.  And practice regularly.

You aren’t meant to clear your mind of all thoughts – that’s not the point.  It’s about acknowledging what comes in our head, not judging it, and letting it go.

I started to visualise my thoughts as little clouds that I would see, acknowledge, and then watch float by.  And that alone had this profound effect on me.  Instant relaxation.  Release.  And now, sometimes I get so deeply into my stillness that I don’t even need to acknowledge the thoughts because they aren’t really there .  They are just floating clouds allowing me to go deeper into relaxation.

Everyone has different ways of meditating.  Some days I meditate to calming music, sometimes it’s to a guided meditation, sometimes I visualise and sometimes the only noise is coming from my breath.  I always meditate with at least one of my crystals.  But everyone is different.  Some people like to meditate lying down, or cross legged, or with their feet flat on the floor.  It’s a completely personal choice. You do what is right for you.

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Meditation truly has changed my life.  It’s grounding.  It’s centres me.  I’m calmer with my children.  I don’t get anxious or frazzled.  And when I’ve had the time, I’ve actually had some really emotional moments during meditation.

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But there’s a catch.  I just mentioned it above.  Time.  I am a Mum.  And finding the time to meditate is one of the hardest things for me.  And unfortunately, it’s not something I get a chance to do every day.  But that needs to change, because meditation needs to become a non-negotiable part of my day.  I’d love to get up early and practice before the rest of the house is up, but when we are usually all up at about 5am anyway, I can’t see that happening.

So I try to do a 10-15 minute meditation when the children have their sleep.  But they don’t always both sleep.

So then I try to sit in stillness right before bed.  But I often end up falling asleep.

I have been getting frustrated at myself, or my situation.  Why can’t I find the time?!  But then again – another ah-ha moment – stop judging!

If I fall asleep, that’s fine.  I generally sleep deeper for it.  If I can only manage 2 minutes before the children wake up – that’s ok too.  As long as I am practicing each and every day.  Because I have learnt, that if I go for a few days without sitting in stillness, I really feel it.  Emotionally, physically and spiritually – my body craves that tiny piece of solitude.

Whether it be a 20 minute block of peace, or a minute of mindful breathing – give it a go.  Keep practicing.  And watch the magic unfold.

Do you meditate?  If you’re only new to meditation, I’d love to hear how you go!  Namaste xx

7 Comments on Calming the mind through meditation

  1. Bec | Mumma Tells
    May 21, 2013 at 10:03 pm (5 years ago)

    I too am relatively new to the art of meditation. It’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness of life – there are many days where I struggle to find the time to practice. But I know how wonderfully refreshed I feel afterwards, so I really must make the time. I’m a big fan of The Smiling Mind app as I find it easier to be in the moment with guided meditation. It’s the perfect “me time” activity.X

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    • Amelia
      May 22, 2013 at 8:10 am (4 years ago)

      The Smiling Mind app is one of my favourites too. It’s a great one to get started – and a great one for kids too! Keep practising lovely xx

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  2. Jane
    May 22, 2013 at 8:30 am (4 years ago)

    It is so good that you have found meditation. I am yet to make it part of a daily habit.. I think Im having those thoughts where it is too hard, I dont have enough time I have too many thoughts floating about, Thanks for letting me know that is all ok and that any amount of meditation is achievable – no matter how short the time we have! When I have done it, I have felt wonderful! So its back to practicing I go! I think I might have to download some apps and start with that! xx

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    • Amelia {Nurture and Shine}
      May 22, 2013 at 8:32 am (4 years ago)

      Definitely keep practising Jane. 🙂
      The Smiling Mind app that I mentioned above is really fantastic. There’s another one called Omvana which is really beautiful and one called Relax Melodies – where you can just play and customise your own little soundtrack. 🙂 xx

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  3. Astrid Van Der Linden
    May 22, 2013 at 1:00 pm (4 years ago)

    Great post Amelia, thank you. It is amazing how relaxed & grounded meditation makes you feel. I am also working on it to make it more of a daily habit as I love it when I fit it into my day. It seems especially important to have moments of solitude when there is really quite a lot of stimulation in daily living. Along with the ongoing demands, expectations & buzz of technology its great to factor in a block of just being with nothing else to distract you. I observed my dad do it for years & you know he is the most peaceful, calm person I know. Your tips are great as always and I can totally relate. Blessings to you xx Astrid

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  4. Naomi @ Not Just A Mummy
    May 22, 2013 at 4:28 pm (4 years ago)

    Love this post Amelia! I too have dabbled oh so many times in the world of meditation but always end up slipping and ‘forgetting’ after a few days and/or panicking that i’m doing it wrong and, like the mature adult I am, getting all annoyed and huffy and giving up! It’s something I KNOW I need to do, especially as an anxiety sufferer. I love the idea of just fitting it when we can. My toddler isn’t too keen on me sitting quietly for 5+ minutes, but if I can squeeze in 5 minutes here and there, it’ll do me so much good! Here’s to making a concerted effort this week to really get my meditation groove on!

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