We can let it stifle us. It can feel constricting. It can hold us back. It can be that negative voice that keeps us small.
Or it could be the thing to propel you forward. It can be expansive. It can set you free.
For years I gave in. It was easier that way. After all, my fear was right… wasn’t it? I couldn’t do it. I wasn’t good enough. That was the truth… wasn’t it?
Fast forward to this past week. It was time to think differently.
It was time to face those fears head on and use them to my advantage for once. I was done with giving my fear the upper hand.
So I did just that. In the space of a few short days, I not only enrolled in Marie Forleo’s B-School, but I also locked in a date + venue for my first workshop.
Every time I have taken a step towards something I believe in, good old fear pops up. You can’t do that. They are better than you. No one cares what you have to say.
And with fear comes it’s side-kicks – resistance + excuses. I don’t have time. I’m just not creative enough. I need to be inspired. Not right now.
Know the feeling?
So many times I listened. I believed it. I made excuses. I continued to stand still.
Ideas would pop up + they set a fire in me, so I would dip my toes in. Maybe even splash around a little. But as soon as anything felt too uncertain/too uncomfortable/too out of my depth, I would jump back out to the safety and warmth of what I already knew. Let’s stay safe.
And then with one little word, I was able to completely change my relationship to fear.
My word. My anchor + compass.
It chose me really. And for once I listened. With devotion as my guide, I couldn’t help but sit with my fears and then use them to finally do what I believe I am here to do.
Late last year, I had an “aha”. Something I have heard before, but this time I got it.
Use your fear as your guide.
Six simple words that changed my life (and then the lives of my clients too).
When it comes to fear, I now believe (actually, I now know) that it is the voice of reason.
I sat with this concept a lot. I gave myself a few more months of “dabbling” (ie. playing small/making excuses) before deciding that this would be the year I would go all in. I was going to really fight for what I believe I deserved.
I was going to live my dreams, instead of talking about them.
Fear is actually pushing you towards your true path. Fear is there to ensure you stay aligned to your purpose. Fear is good. Run towards it, not away from it.
Of course, if you are faced with a genuine life threatening situation – RUN. But if you’re just afraid of stepping outside of your comfort zone? … That is when we need to lean in a little deeper.
What is the worst thing that could happen? If you took this leap, and were successful, how could it change your life?
As I pressed “YES” to B-School, I cried. Tears of joy, nervous energy, uncertainty, excitement and gratitude. I had taken the biggest leap of my life. By saying yes, I wasn’t just enrolling in a course, I was saying yes to all that I believe in. I was showing a deep belief in myself. I was giving a gentle, but almighty powerful tip-of-the-hat to this big ole’ dream of mine. And that right there, is worth everything. It’s worth the butterflies, the uncertainty and that jump off the platform.
You know what it feels like…
You want something. You believe in something. And then that voice comes in with the same old you can’t do that.
But beautiful, you can.
Turn it all around. Get empowered by your fears.
You will always be caught.
Know that when you hear you can’t, it actually means this is where you need to go. Will it be scary? Quite possibly. Will it take courage? Hell yeah! Is it worth it? Without a shadow of a doubt.
And the funniest part? It’s kind of addictive. That feeling of saying yes/signing up/putting it out there/completing a task/starting a blog/finding your voice… Whatever it is you’re busting through… It’s liberating. It’s possible. It’s the true game-changer. I want more.
What if you weren’t afraid? What would life be like if you didn’t let fear hold you back? Sit with those feelings. How can you use these fears to move you forward. To feel empowered.
Is it time to reclaim your power and leap into the unknown? Is it time to back yourself?
You can do this, babe… Your fear says so.
With love + fierce fear-busting,