I don’t talk much on this blog about my life as a Mum.

Not that it’s not important to me, because the truth is, it is my most important role in life.  It’s just that it’s never really come up all that much.

But before I go on, I feel like I need to say a bit of a disclaimer here… being a mother, doesn’t define me.  And it took me a very long time to get to this point.  Sure, my role as Mum has me pretty much “on” 24/7.  But being a Mum isn’t who I am, it’s just something I do.  And just because I’m a mother, it doesn’t mean I don’t want and need time to myself.  I really want all Mums or Mums-to-be out there to know that it is certainly not selfish to spend a little time each day just for you.  Of course there are days where that’s just not possible, but you should never feel guilty for wanting a bit of time out.

My role of Mother is one that not only changed the way I live my life, but it changed me as a person from the inside out.  One day, I will sit down and put a post together telling you just how much my children mean to me.  But to be honest, I find it so hard to put into words just how much love I have for these two little people.

The obvious fact is that I am a Mum.  And for me, being a Mum means that whatever happens – family life will always come first.

Quite often it means I don’t blog as regularly.
Sometimes it means newsletters don’t get sent out.
Occasionally it means I get a few weeks behind in study.
Sometimes emails don’t get answered so quickly.
It also means I have to pull myself up from looking at the way other people’s businesses are flourishing and just be ok with where I am now.

I don’t always have the luxury of time.   I don’t always have the luxury of quiet.  And sometimes, even though my mind is at peace, my outside world (and one very inquisitive 4 year old) is asking me a millions and one questions.

But that’s ok.  Because I choose my family.  And I have the luxury of being here (when I know a lot of people do not).

I choose to answer those questions to enable her to understand the world around her.  I choose to be here for the laughter, the tears, the sickness, the milestones, the sibling arguments, the nappies, the Kinder drop offs, the lack of sleep, the endless episodes of Peppa Pig, the craft, the dress-ups, the play dates, the spills, the smiles, the fun.  And the LOVE.

The reason for this post is really due to the fact that Motherhood, this week, has kind of kicked my butt.  Both my little ones have been quite sick (there was even a trip to the emergency room yesterday which wasn’t too fun… All is ok now though).  Both have demanded my time, my arms and my love.  There hasn’t been much sleep.  Balls have been dropped and calls have gone unanswered.  And self-care has completely gone out the window.  They have been my priority.
There’s been a lot of arguments between the two of them as to who can sit on my lap and who can get the most cuddles.  There has been food spilt, noses wiped, temperatures monitored, tears and lot of whinging.  I’m exhausted.

It is now past 4pm and I am still be in my pyjamas.  I may be physically drained and I may have a to-do list the size of my leg.  But as I lay there on the couch earlier with one of them asleep on my chest, and the other asleep snuggled beside me, I couldn’t help but smile and feel content.

I am eternally grateful to be a mother.

I choose my family because I want to.  And if that means that my blog and business take baby steps rather than giant leaps – then that’s ok with me.

Being a mother (and wife) is more important to me than any other role I play.  And those two sleeping and sniffly babies will never know just how much their love, and their role in my life, means to me.

I am blessed.

7 Comments on Mama life always comes first

  1. Leigh
    March 26, 2014 at 8:39 pm (4 years ago)

    Lovely, its always a juggle. Some days all the planets are aligning and others you just cant seem to get anything done or right! You know whats important though and thats soooo great! Keep on doing what you are doing, you are kicking goals! All my love xxxxxx

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    • Amelia
      March 28, 2014 at 4:43 pm (4 years ago)

      Absolutely lovely Leigh. Thank you so very much. xx

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  2. Barbara
    March 26, 2014 at 9:04 pm (4 years ago)

    Hi. Just want to tell you how inspirational I find you Amelia, and this news letter only reinforce that opinion even more. I think you are an awesome woman, 2 little kids, a running business and still have time to enjoy the life, have hobbies, and look gorgeous. That’s the kind of woman I want to be. I just don’t work out yet how to do it lol. With my newborn all my world change, and also my goals. I don’t want just to be a mum too but at the moment it’s the only thing that is important for me if that makes sense. Keep being you, you are a amazing, and that is what your kids will tell you when they realized all what you do for them and for yourself everyday. Xx

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    • Amelia
      March 28, 2014 at 4:44 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh Barbara, you are just beautiful. Thank you so much. You will absolutely get there. 🙂 And while your baby is so small, it’s so ok to just be a Mum and enjoy every fleeting moment. Lots of love. xxx

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  3. Morgan
    April 1, 2014 at 1:34 pm (4 years ago)

    Beautiful post, I could feel the love you have for your two little ones pouring out your words. I absolutely loved this post, it was so reassuring to read as I’m a huge fan of your work and have 3 kids myself. xx

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  4. Leonie
    April 4, 2014 at 9:56 pm (4 years ago)

    Yes, yes and yes. I hear you loud and clear. Having three kids, a shift working husband, two dogs and a business – somedays I feel like I’m not only going crazy, but doing none of it well. It’s a juggling act that is difficult and sometimes stressful, and it is so easy to get caught up looking at other people’s businesses thriving. But for me, my family will ALWAYS come first. I made a decision long ago that I will never be the most successful person in my field (not because I don’t love what I do or want to learn and grow), because ultimately that would mean sacrificing my family life and I am not willing to do that. Being a mother is the greatest gift I have been given, and the greatest achievement of my life. As you said, I am not ONLY a mother…but it is and always will be my first priority. No amount of money, fame or success could compensate for a hug from my kids, listening to my daughters with their school readers or having my child sleep soundly in my arms. Its easy to get lost in work, and I am so glad to have read your post today…very timely. Keep up the beautiful work.

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