“Nurturing Me, Nurturing You” is a series of interviews with the women who inspire me to inspire you.
These are the women I draw inspiration from, the women who are out there shining their light on the world and the teachers who empower me (and you) with their words each and every day. They are all trailblazers in their own way and I am so grateful to have them here at this space.
I have to admit, it’s taken me a while to write this introduction. Simply because I’m not sure I have the words to describe just how highly I think of this gorgeous woman. On paper, Tara Bliss is a spirit-fuelled coach, writer, healer and speaker. But she is so much more than that. She is a woman who is determined to live her truth. To live from her soul and to live a life of joy. And she’s doing it in such an honest, spirited and enriching way.
Tara is real. She is open. She is beautiful. And I truly believe she is going to change the world.
This interview is what Tara called a “nomad interview”. She wrote it on a train, plane and hotel room – while on her way to Bali, where she spent the majority of October writing her book. You can read about her incredible experience here.
Tara is most definitely an old soul. She has the wisdom of someone who has lived a thousand lives, yet she is only in her mid-20s. Her journey has really only just begun, and I think that’s what excites me most about her. Tara is curious, and she inspires me to be curious too. When she speaks, I really listen. When she writes, it goes straight to my soul. This beauty knows how to connect, she knows how to get the best out of people, she knows that we must never stop asking questions.
I am so blessed to count her as a friend.
♥ You are out there inspiring so many people each day, but who or what inspires you?
It’s really those simple, glorious moments in time that inspire me most.
Whether it’s a sentence or two that pops up while working with a client, or that first glimmer of morning sun beaming through the window, or the recognition of a beautiful idea that’s come-a-knockin’ – I like to think that inspiration isn’t something that we should hunt for, or reach for, but rather a force that we can cultivate within, and open up to.
The people who inspire me are the ones that challenge the norm and aren’t afraid of a little friction. Those trail blazers give me permission to always, always shoot for authenticity and truth.
I find introverts particularly sexy, fascinating and inspiring.
And generally, I find the whole process of creating beyond amazing.
♥ What is your dream?
Babe, I could go on here about specifics, but really, when it all comes down to it, three themes spring to mind.
USEFUL. DEEPLY-LOVING. FREE.
I want to feel all of those things, and I trust that as long as I am, then life is serving me well and I should be counting my blessings.
At this point in time, traveling, creating, connecting, and caring for people I love infuse my life with those feelings, but I’m open to any experience that acts as a magnet for joy. In total humility and simplicity: I just want to be happy.
♥ Is there one significant moment you can pinpoint, where you knew that you wanted to take control of your health and wellbeing?
There really isn’t. When I reflect, even when my health was at it’s worst – when I was deep in self-destructive behaviour – I was always longing to ‘take control’ of and get a real handle on my life. I’ve always wanted to be healthy, it’s just that I was digging for the idea of health in questionable places.
I thought my answers lay in the statistics of Women’s Health magazine.
I stacked up my worth on how much weight I could lift at the gym.
I only loved myself as much as the man in my life loved me.
You get the idea.
In my case, it was that stubborn pull at my chest that eventually led to a revolution. (You can read more about that here)
♥ What do you think is the most important step a person can take right now, to start loving and nurturing themselves again?
Follow the joy. Living a vibrant life isn’t about deprivation, and it doesn’t need to be fuelled by comparison and ‘shoulds’. Lean into what feels like a match for YOU – whether it’s a certain way of eating, exercising, meditating – it’s 100% okay to blaze your own trail and leave behind a plume of dust. Just do it with a full heart, and be gentle with yourself.
♥ What does the term “being healthy” mean to you?
♥ A lot of people struggle with living in the moment, how do you stay present?
This is such a great question, and in total transparency, I don’t stay present. It’s my bet that few of us do.
Mostly, I’m reminded of how present I am by how regularly I think to myself, Oh, I’m not being present, and upon realising that, I return to the moment.
Breath work is the portal for me though, undoubtedly. When I’m on the toilet, when I’m coaching, when I’m sitting in silence, I’m really aware of the rise and fall of my belly – it feels powerful to connect in like that, but it’s most definitely a practice.
The key with presence is to never give up, and to never lose patience. And to find a method of devotion that lights you up. Meditation has been that method for me, which lead me to study yoga – something that brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it. Find your own spiritual song, and commit to yourself to it.
♥ What is the one song that is guaranteed to get your up on the dance floor?
I don’t really party any more, but if a dance floor were to suddenly materialise in front of me, well, I doubt I could stay still if the DJ spun a little Daft Punk. (Yeah. Electro is still in my blood)
♥ Sometimes people can get caught up in the seriousness of spirituality/personal development and forget about having fun – what do you do to ensure FUN is not forgotten?
Well, synchronicites are fun! And I really believe that synchronicities are a by-product of being aligned with your truth, so a commitment to turning into yourself (which really doesn’t have to be tiresome or serious) is often rewarded with little nudges from Life.
My suggestion is to look for those nudges. Expect them. And give the Universe a little high five or fist pump when you received them. Keep it bright and light.
♥ If you could invite anyone over for a little dinner party at your place, which 5 people (dead or alive) would you invite and why?People that intrigue and fascinate me with their quirks:
Lorde – Seriously, what 16 year old writes lyrics like that?!
Johnny Lee Miller – Sherlock, but sexy.
Danielle LaPorte – Sass and insight.
Echkart Tolle – For his snort-giggles (and his incredible mind, obviously).
My husband Glen – just to see the look on his face when he experiences all these people in the same room! To say he’d feel a little uncomfortable is an understatement, but it’d make for an interesting evening.
THE SPEEDY SIX…
♥ Favourite exercise? Yoga, hands down..
♥ Favourite colour? Anything cool – like turquoise and pastel purple. Though I have a penchant for orange, too.
♥ Favourite vegetable? Shrooms!
♥ Favourite superfood? Cacao.
♥ Favourite smoothie combination? Coconut water, banana, greens and spirulina.
♥ What are you grateful for right now? I’m currently sitting in a train (equipped with wifi), on my way to the airport. I’m incredibly grateful to be heading to Bali for a month of immersive writing!
You can connect with the beautiful Tara over at Such Different Skies, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram @tara_bliss. Tara’s amazing online program, The Party Girls Guide To Peace is changing the lives of women from all over the world – it’s like no online program you’ve ever seen. And finally, Tara and the equally gorgeous Rach, who co-wrote Spirited (my FAVOURITE e-book ever!), are getting together again to bring the Spirited 2014 Companion to the world. This latest offering is set to be released next week (available for pre-order now), and offers us “Spirited solutions to what is holding you back”. It’s sure to have us diving deeper, finding clarity and ultimately, making it happen for 2014. I can’t wait to get my hands on it!