The messaging consistently tells us that young is often best. That growing old is something to be fearful of, or to avoid. “Anti-age”, “find eternal youth”, “cover the greys”, “top 25 hottest young CEOs”. It’s consistent. It’s everywhere. Encouraging women to think we need to be in our “youthful 20s” forever.
I’m done with it.
Of course, I think young women are powerful too – this isn’t “anti-young”. I’m just done with the narrative that getting old is something we need to fight. When getting older is actually the biggest gift and the greatest blessing.
I don’t want to go back to my 20s. I don’t want to look or feel like I did back then at all. Sure, my skin was a little plumper, and my boobs were definitely perkier (whereas now they sit closer to my hips), but I was also unfit, unhealthy, incredibly insecure and still really immature. That “youthful smile” was actually hiding years of distorted eating, feelings of complete inadequacy, and a longing to just find my place in the world.
The message has been that if we haven’t found “our thing” by the time we are in our 30s – it’s unlikely we will find it at all. Or that heaven forbid, once 50 hits – that’s pretty much life wrapped up. “Over the hill” and all that.
Pardon my language – but fuck that!
At 35, I’m still young. And I’m just getting started. I’m the strongest I have ever been, and I am more comfortable in my own skin than ever before. And I am really only now starting to sink my teeth into my passions. I feel like my life is just beginning. And with every single day and year that passes – I become MORE, not less. I am more confident, more courageous, more secure, much stronger and far happier.
Life doesn’t slow down or get worse as we age – it gets better and better!
We are starting to see stories in the media of women who are shaking things up in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. But I want to see more! We tell our girls that they can be and do anything, but I want to see that message continue as we age. Let’s see more examples of women rising – no matter how old they are. Show us the possibility, instead of all this “prevention” BS.
Don’t tell me my grey hairs need covering. I will cover them if and when feels good for me – not because you’ve scared me into it.
Don’t tell me I have to look or act or be a certain way by a certain age. I make the rules of my life.
Don’t tell me I need to “fight ageing”. I will embrace it in a way that feels right for me. And I reserve the right to change my mind about *all* of it too! 😉
Getting older isn’t something to fear or avoid – it’s something to embrace and cherish. With age, comes freedom and a liberation to be myself beyond anything I could have even comprehended in my early 20s.
… and I feel like I need to keep saying – I’m just 35… there’s still so much of this liberation still to come!
I will continue to tell my daughter, and my little sisters that life just gets richer and more abundant the older you get (… the best is still to come!).
“And the beauty of a woman, with passing years only grows!”― Audrey Hepburn
Bring on the next birthday, and the next, and the next!