This wasn’t exactly the post I intended to write today.  But something happened this week that filled me with so much pride, gratitude and unexpected self-awareness, that I had to share.

Yesterday, my daughter told me this…

“Mummy, sometimes when I feel like it, I go to my room and shut the door.  Then I quietly sit and cross my legs, put my hands together on my heart and say to myself ‘I love you'”.

She is 4.

Her statement blew me away.  It was most definitely up there in the top five of my proudest moments as a parent so far.

Her innocence.  Her beautiful heart.  Her connection to herself.  Her love.

It was one of those rare times when as I parent, I thought to myself “I’m doing something right”, and as a woman who has gone through a huge journey to self-love, I thought “hell yeah, girl!!”.

“That is so beautiful, darling” I told her.  “A very special gift that you are giving yourself.  We will always love you, but it is so important to love yourself always too.”

I never want that to change in her.  It is rare, special and something that should be treasured each and every single day.


It got me thinking though.  When did it become ok to use the term “arrogant” for someone who loved themselves?  I remember kids at school throwing around phrases like “she’s so up herself” or “she thinks she’s so amazing”…  I was one of them.  Let’s be honest, we’ve all used words like that.  And we probably never knew how toxic that was.  It’s really no wonder so many of us spend our teenage and early adult years being so damn afraid to stand out in our truth.

Loving yourself becomes something to fear.  Those of us brave enough to be who we are somehow become ridiculed.  So instead of standing out as individuals, we become clones.  Terrified to go against the grain.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.  And I will do everything in my power to ensure it is not like that for my daughter (or my son – because men need self-love too!).  They will continue to know how special they are, but more importantly they will be shown how to love themselves unconditionally.  And how even though they will grow and change over time, they should never stop believing in who they are.  They will learn to take care of their bodies and treat themselves with respect, gratitude and love.

And the best way I know how to teach this to them?  Lead by example.  I am who I am, and I let my children see that.  They have seen me cry, they have seen me laugh, they have seen me meditate, study, repeat affirmations, question myself and move past my own fears.  They have seen that emotions are real and that we should never be ashamed to feel any one of them.

I will always answer their questions as honestly as I can.  Of course I teach them the usual right from wrong, but I also want to show them each and every day how proud I am to be me.  They already know how proud I am of them, so why not show them how proud I am of me (and their Daddy!) too?

When my beautiful little girl uttered those words to me yesterday, I knew that in some small way, I have been doing the right thing.

I want my children to continue to see that it is more than ok to love the person that you are

Whether we are aware of it or not, the words, feelings and energy we put out in the world are felt by those around us.  So rather than tell the way, we have to show the way.  Actions really do speak louder than words.  What energy are you putting out there?  Are you allowing those closest to you to see the person you really are?  If we want to make changes for future generations, it really does have to start with us in this moment.

Love & Light,
Amelia xx

Author: Amelia

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7 thoughts on “Your influence is greater than you think…

  1. By line six I was a blubbering mess. I feel so much happiness to read this. I read it to Holly (my three year old). I told her they were happy tears. Amelia, your beautiful angel has a very wonderful guardian leading her in life (pssst…that’s you). Thank-you for sharing.

    Posted on June 12, 2014 at 8:44 pm
    1. Thank YOU darling girl, for your beautiful words. xx

      Posted on June 16, 2014 at 3:05 pm
  2. Incredible words to come from a four year old. How lucky she is a mum who has guided her there! xx

    Posted on June 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm
    1. Thank you Hayley. I feel like I’m the lucky one to be graced with her presence! xx

      Posted on June 16, 2014 at 3:05 pm
  3. Amelia, such a testament to your parenting in raising beautiful, strong girls to take on the world with self-love. My little girl is just 6 months old and this is such an inspiring article to keep me on track with how to nurture her spirit (and mine) as she grows. Thank you.

    Posted on June 14, 2014 at 10:16 am
    1. Thank you Stephanie. xx

      Posted on June 16, 2014 at 3:06 pm
  4. What an incredibly wise young lady beyond her years. Many of us could learn a thing or two from her. Amelia, You should be proud!

    Posted on June 18, 2014 at 10:34 pm